failure

it’s been three years and seven months

December 7, 2009

Of course the title of my post calls to mind Sinead O’Connor’s song, Nothing Compares 2 U, and while her lyrics are not 100% apropos for my thinking about my own life right now, the poignancy of her song accurately pulls the strings of my heart, on this, the 3 year, 7 month anniversary of [...]

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rotting away

November 23, 2009

My friend Stephanie likes to host a Polidori party now and again. Here’s how she explains it: Polidori history: A few clever college students at the University of Dallas in the early 90′s decided to host something called “Polidori’s Pumpkin Party,” named for John Polidori in honor of the 1816 gathering of writers at the [...]

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what’s trust got to do with it?

November 20, 2009

Two days ago I learned that within just three weeks of dumping me, my husband was back in the arms of a former lover, a woman with whom he had been serious not long before he and I met. I had known of her and had learned that they had reconnected, but I did not [...]

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loose ends so tangled there’s no tying them up

November 7, 2009

It is a Saturday afternoon and I am at my husband’s house. He is off improving himself, and I am here alone with the chore of sorting through the last of my things here, the aim being to finish up all the loose ends and leave him a house that contains none of me and [...]

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Identifying the roots of dismay and discontent

August 28, 2009

I have been feeling a lack of happiness for awhile. The very noticing of this is of course an essential first-step towards contending with it. Another vital step is moving from blaming the lack of happiness on an external something or other and moving onward to explore what it is about me that is amiss. [...]

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G G A G C B

July 25, 2009

Back when I was teaching improve-your-self-image classes I would expound on how our notions of our selves and others are frequently ill-founded and askew. I would speak of what I had learned about “great” people, and how great people are often plagued by the same fears and doubts as us average folk–we just don’t get [...]

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Second Anniversary

July 7, 2009

It has been seven months since my marriage unraveled, and two years since the marriage itself. It’s been these past seven months that we have stitched our marriage back together. Not fine tailoring mind you, but not a complete hack job, either. I will admit though, that today’s marriage looks distinctly different than it did [...]

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determining failure

December 23, 2008

A dear friend telephoned me last night, sobbing, and said, “Am I a failure?” “Well luv,” I thought. “Let’s see. Your business is in trouble. Your sweetie has ended your relationship. Your car is in the shop, your house is in foreclosure-land, and your cat has started pissing your walls. I’d say that your life [...]

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