relationships

A journey.

March 22, 2012

Two and a half years ago my marriage imploded. Little by little I move toward a new life, a life which once again fits me and incorporates my dreams. Two and a half years ago, I had my dream life. I had found a partner who shared some of my most important dreams, and we [...]

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If I Knew Then What I Know Now

February 11, 2011

I’ve been invited to contribute to a bit of an anthology that is being compiled for a girl named Clementine. Clementine is about to turn sixteen. Several women have been asked to compose a message to the girl they were at 16, so I’ve written this message to the girl I was almost 40 years [...]

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Fading with Time

October 28, 2010

It has been more than a year since the demise of my marriage; I am baffled by the strong feelings that remain with me still, after so much time has passed. I still carry a deep sadness, and I wear a thick mantle to shelter my heart. It’s true that with the passage of time [...]

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Piedmont

September 22, 2010

Hanging out up on Piedmont Avenue there is a guy with a long gray beard who goes by the name of CarWash. He is friends with Mary, at least that is what Mary says. Mary also says that CarWash saved her life and that she knows that he didn’t murder that woman–the one who was [...]

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Something I haven’t saved.

July 6, 2010

In this month’s theme of “saved” and on the eve of the three-year anniversary of my wedding, I am contemplating that thing I was unable to save—my marriage. Tomorrow is July 7, 2010. I was married on 07-07-07—ostensibly a favorably auspicious date—to a man with whom I believed my life was destined to be entwined. [...]

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By a Thread

June 30, 2010

I’ve just lived the worst two or three months of my life. I believe I am on a good track of improvement, but some days still I’m not so sure. It wasn’t the flu, although it felt quite like it. Intense, immense body ache, foggy brain, and constant need for a nap. Soooo tired. Of [...]

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Keep On Truckin’

May 9, 2010

Having some trouble today keeping faith. Fear. Sorrow. Grief. Emotions and doubts clouding this big-blue-sky morning. The feelings get all jumbled up and it is difficult to rise above the mess. What is what? That twist in my belly, is it fear? The tension in my brow, is it anger? Or, more fear? The hot [...]

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Getting back on the horse. And not the High horse.

April 15, 2010

I will tell you straight out that I am not (yet) thrilled about this. After a series of thoughts (which I won’t bore you with reporting here) I have decided that it is time for me to begin getting back on the horse. It’s time to become more open to having a man in my [...]

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21st century, rules change, rules stay the same

April 14, 2010

A few things to cover today. Succinctly, sex, sex, sex. ∞ First up, dating and sex and the infernal question, “Who Pays?”. As in, we are on a first date, who pays? And the question is answered with humour and insight by Single Ape. I especially like how he says When you ask someone out, [...]

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Serious wtf.

April 11, 2010

Things have been going along pretty swell. I’ve had myself on the he-is-dead plan and on lock-down—no meandering into spaces where my ex might be or may have left a trail. It’s been working okay, and with the new paradigm and regime, my number of melt-downs has diminished to almost nil. Nice. I have been [...]

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