November 11, 2012

Tonight something prompted me to think about my ex-husband and our marriage, and after a moment I thought, “I am glad we are not together.” This is the first time I can remember when I’ve had that thought in such a clear and unbidden fashion. I mean, I have rationalized that I am better off [...]

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Two Steps Forward, One Step Back

November 9, 2012

I’ve decided to re-read the books that I read in the days after my marriage crumbled. At that time, each of the books in this photograph was instrumental in keeping me sane, hopeful, or believing in myself. But I was a different person then, and–no question–my mind and heart were addled. So, I’d like to [...]

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Let’s See the Life

November 4, 2012

I cannot continue like this, in this limbo, this purgatory. It has been three years, and while my hell has abated, my wounds have not healed sufficiently that I am moving on with life. Three years ago, my marriage was clearly kaput, and I was deeply immersed in dealing with all that comes with the [...]

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Finding the Stuff of Wings

July 23, 2012

Early this spring, just after the swallows and western bluebirds started returning, I got busy cleaning out and repairing our birdhouses, making ready for nesting season. This hadn’t been done for many years, if ever, and I don’t know a lot about bird life, but what I’d read recommended an annual clean-out … Additionally, there [...]

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A journey.

March 22, 2012

Two and a half years ago my marriage imploded. Little by little I move toward a new life, a life which once again fits me and incorporates my dreams. Two and a half years ago, I had my dream life. I had found a partner who shared some of my most important dreams, and we [...]

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Beth suggests I stop thinking. I think that might be a good idea.

April 22, 2011

Lately I’ve stumbled on some images that disturb me. First, there were the chocolate crucifixes in the Easter candy aisle at Walmart. Then last night I came upon the collection above. I was a little bored, and honestly, since that amazing dream I had the other night, I have been a little lonely. So, I [...]

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Reading “Slouching Towards Bethlehem”

March 3, 2011

Another book in my library of divorcée lit. This one I am enjoying for Joan Didion’s style of writing, and for the flashbacks to my childhood. But the essay that puts the book in divorcée lit for me is On Self-Respect. Didion writes: To live without self-respect is to lie awake some night, beyond the [...]

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Moving Along

January 21, 2011

The one-year anniversary of my divorce has come and gone, and I almost didn’t notice. That’s a good thing, the almost not noticing. It means that I have traveled a good, long distance from then and am more actually living now. It means that although I would still describe my heart as broken, broken-hearted is [...]

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Not Tonight I Have a Headache

January 17, 2011

Usually there’s not much to be gained by denying or trying to avoid pain. So this Etsy Treasury is about embracing the pain by choosing our own representation of it—pretties to symbolize pain, without actually hurting. And even a little full-on humour.

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Mending the Broken Heart

January 17, 2011

Another collection of Etsy Treasures. This one, obviously, is about broken hearts. But I approached this from a non-saccharine, light-hearted, but quite serious perspective. Perhaps something here will help you cheer up a friend whose heart is aching.

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