Comments on: did we stand in our own way? http://ordinarybeauty.com/2010/02/02/did-we-stand-in-our-own-way/ pointing out the Oh! in Ordinary, since 1956 Tue, 03 Apr 2012 15:42:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Joanna Cake http://ordinarybeauty.com/2010/02/02/did-we-stand-in-our-own-way/comment-page-1/#comment-1559 Joanna Cake Wed, 03 Feb 2010 19:57:05 +0000 http://ordinarybeauty.com/?p=1477#comment-1559 I have tried to make sense of it all too. Tried not to feel hurt that he now keeps the house tidy and has rearranged everything so it is as if I never lived there. Why do we change once we are separate? Because we have become so ingrained in our ways together as a couple that we need to actively accentuate our new independence. Take advantage of this. Rescue the you that you once were and pull her from the wreckage. She has acquired a few new skills along the way, as well as a few bruises but, underneath it all, she is the you who was crying out for freedom when you were so unhappy within your marriage. I can empathise totally with my own yoga and pilates classes and new business plans :) I have tried to make sense of it all too. Tried not to feel hurt that he now keeps the house tidy and has rearranged everything so it is as if I never lived there.

Why do we change once we are separate? Because we have become so ingrained in our ways together as a couple that we need to actively accentuate our new independence.

Take advantage of this. Rescue the you that you once were and pull her from the wreckage. She has acquired a few new skills along the way, as well as a few bruises but, underneath it all, she is the you who was crying out for freedom when you were so unhappy within your marriage.

I can empathise totally with my own yoga and pilates classes and new business plans :)

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