It has been seven months since my marriage unraveled, and two years since the marriage itself.
It’s been these past seven months that we have stitched our marriage back together. Not fine tailoring mind you, but not a complete hack job, either. I will admit though, that today’s marriage looks distinctly different than it did two years ago.
Yes, it is a new & improved marriage, with more appreciation and forgiveness, with more respect for who and what we are. It fits better and is more reflective of our realities. And, I will say that although I am less “in love”, I am profoundly happier.
We are not the same people we were on 07 07 07 when we married. We have each become more of who we truly are, which of course makes it more possible to have a real and growing relationship. And I think the real and the growing are what please me the most about all this right now.
I cannot say that I am always present and appreciative in each moment, and I must admit that I fall far short of being the spouse that I want to be. But I have learned to make this marriage my utmost priority.
I am not wise about all this. I frequently wake to see a sleeping head on the pillow beside mine, and I marvel, “Whoa. That’s my husband. What does that mean, really?!”
If I am lucky, I will have many more years to find out.
